Falling for someone you can't have is frustrating. But, falling for someone you're not even sure you want is even more frustrating. Not making much sense? Let me try to explain from a woman's perspective, mine. I'm not sure if this happens mostly to women or men, but either way, it's heart wrenching. When I was young, sixteen years old, I thought I was in love, what did I know. It was my first relationship, and he was almost ten years my senior. I abandoned all things "teenager" and he became my world. 12 years later we got married, life goes on, things go bad and next thing I know, I'm 45 and getting a divorce. Twenty-eight years of my life was spent with one man, so when the time came to explore my options with other men, I was terrified. What kind of man do I want? I've never been faced with this kind of question because it was not something I thought about for twenty-eight years. I knew that I wanted a man that would be capable of...
We spend a great deal of time thinking about the changes we want to make in our lives, however, we fail to make those changes for one reason or another. To us, we have logically valid reasons why we don't make those changes. Most of the time we fear the unknown; we don't know what the outcome of our change; we're afraid of letting go of the known for the unknown. So, what do we do instead? We settle for the known, we watch our souls wither, until we don't recognize ourselves.