Warning Signs #5: DEFLECTING

DEFLECTING RESPONSIBILITY

Making excuses for their behavior. Examples can be blaming you, other people or past experiences for their actions, using alcohol or drugs as an excuse, using mental health issues or past experiences (like a cheating ex or divorced parents) as a reason for unhealthy behavior.

Right...it's never their fault that they're the way they are. It's always "because of" someone or something that makes them behave the way they do. They would even go as far as make you the trigger that causes their insane behavior. They make you the antecedent, the calm before the storm. And since you have become recluse and isolated from those who can guide you and see through the sham, you can't defend yourself, you go along with their assessment of you,therefore, you're unable to tell the difference between what they want you to believe, and what you believe is the truth. So, for the sake of peace, you accept the blame and move on. But, do you really move on, or do you just become a shell of your former self?

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