Helping him become a self-sufficient man

My baby boy, he's 18 but I still see him as my baby who needs my help in becoming a grown up. It hurts me when he thinks that my encouragement and push is my way of saying that he's not trying hard enough, or not putting in the effort that he should. As someone looking in from the outside, I feel like he could be doing more to find a job. He sits on his phone, claiming to be applying for work but nothing ever pans out.

He does not want to go to school so I told him that he needs to find a job. He's young with next to nothing experience. However, it seems like my efforts to motivate him (something he does not have), it comes out as lack of trust and belief. This boy gets excited about nothing, it's like he's permanently depressed. Then again, after what he's been through, it wouldn't be a surprise. I just want him to find his place in the world.

Today I took him to Workforce for orientation. He's suppose to get guidance, referrals and resources to find work. Unfortunately, I had to stay and get information myself because I couldn't rely on him to go through the orientation and come back and tell me what happened. He's the worst at relaying information. Afterwards, I took him with me to do some banking business for myself, then we had lunch afterwards. I'm glad we spent some time together.

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