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The unexpected


Good Morning you wonderful souls!



I can't stress enough how important it is to continue moving forward even when your legs refuse to hold you and support you up. It's those times when the unexpected happens.  The unexpected happens when you decide to not worry about it anymore, instead, focus on something else.  On your journey to self discovery and self healing, there will be bumps, don't let those bumps slow you down longer that a fraction of a second, if you do, you will continue to slow down, eventually to a stop.  You absolutely do not want this to happen.

Lately, I've been in the dumps a bit, not too much.  Worrying about bills, fighting to get back in the classroom and start teaching again, worrying about the kids and their well being, just the usual stuff.  Realizing that I wasn't doing anyone any good, I decided to let go of those worries and take care of my mental health.  I reached out to a professional to help me cope, to help me concentrate on myself for a minute. This self love worked pretty well for me, as I'm sure would help you as well if you gave it a try.

Once I dropped everything and everyone out of my mind and was left with just Ivy, good things started to happen, and it only took 24 hours time. Shortly after my therapy, I received unexpected back to back phone calls that made my day, then a friend stopped by to visit me and we spent most of the day together, talking and eating.  To think that all that happened because I decided to empty out unnecessary things out of my head, which allowed better things to come into my life. It's like Spring cleaning. When you get rid of items in your house/closet that you don't use, you're left with a breath of fresh air and fresh space for better things.

My point?  Stop worrying about things you cannot control.  Instead, concentrate on the things you have control over, like yourself.   Let me know your thoughts in the comments section.


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